Delivering My 3rd Baby After a 10-Year Gap

Salam,

I thought of documented my experience here, just for the sake of memories. 

Orang cakap, if u had years of gap after your last pregnancy, u will experience the delivery like it was your first time. I mean, longer cervix opening, difficult labour etc. Of course, with my advanced maternal age, I'm a little scared to imagine what will happen on the day itself.

To cut the story short, I had my antenatal check up on the 25th June 2025. Macam biasa, check BP, urine test etc. dekat Hosp Annur. My husband wfh today so he accompanied me pergi hospital. Deep down, I tak tahu kenapa, I feel like I akan deliver the baby on this day. I pesan kat my other two babies, suruh bawa kunci rumah in case I deliver today. So, masa test urine, i nampak ada spotting like a mucus plug. Thats when I know, hm, I will deliver this baby probably today. 

BP reading tak ok. Bacaan atas 190 which is very high. Normal should be 120/90. Luckily I dont need to wait for so long to see Dr Fatimah sebab I turn in early today. At first, I ingat I just nak minta letter from doc so that I can request to arrange for "work from home" from my Company until my due date which is 21 July 2025. But Allah has better plans and indeed is the best planner. I told Dr Fatimah about the spotting this morning, and she decided to do VE. Guess what? I already dilate 4cm! Doc terus arrange I masuk labour room to prepare for my delivery.

I dengan tak bawa apa2 pun, because I didn't expect I will deliver this baby earlier sebab gestational age dia only 36 weeks. Still 4 more weeks to go kalau based on track record her sister and brother, only 1-2 days difference from my EDD previously. Tapi, hikmahnya sebab BP i tiba2 tinggi, doc says the only cure is to deliver the baby. And since I dah ada opening, I tak perlu induce/ czer. Just wait for the cervix to open natually.

Labour room

From 11am to 2pm, my progress cuma 5cm. Still tak rasa sakit, boleh sembang and gelak2 with my husband. I macam disbelief yang I akan bersalin harini. Sebab sakit masih tak kick in kot. Maybe. Then, I just nk follow petua my sister cara dia cepatkan bukaan cervix masa nak bersalin. Minum teh o pekat mix dengan telur ayam kuning yang tak masak. My husband minta kedai bawah buatkan. Not that bad la the taste, takde rasa hanyir pun. 

Start tu, I dah rasa sakit sikit2 sampai I minta inject epidural sekarang. Doc expect I akan deliver tomorrow morning since the big gap with previous pregnancy. Doc anest sampai and cucuk dekat spine etc. Macam biasa, cucuk tu bagi i tak sakit pun. Nak ambik darah lagi sakit sebab urat I susah sangat nak jumpa. Midwife buat VE, now I'm already at 7cm masa ni dah pukul 6pm. Start ni I dah rasa sakit even with epidural sebab ada part of my perut (kanan) macam tak lut dengan epidural tu. Bila contraction, sumpah perut sakit sebelah (cries). Perut kiri, kaki semua memang dah tak rasa pun sebab epidural tu. Midwife mamang tolong I masa tu. She try to increase the dosage tapi perut kanan memang rasa sakit contraction tu tak boleh buat apa.

Masa ni kepala I sakit sangat. BP tinggi doc suspect pre-eclampsia. So i'm being dripped with magnesium sulphate for 12 hours. Sakit sangat masuk ubat ni rasa urat tangan nak pecah. Midwife cakap memang ubat ni panas. Ubat ni digunakan untuk calm my nervous system and elakkan seizures. Condition I sekarang, tangan kanan and kiri ada drip, lepastu dah epidural kena pasang tiub kencing. So memang tak boleh gerak pergi mana pun.

I practice deep breathing etc yelah sakit kan, otak pun dah melayang. Husband I balik rumah sekejap urus anak sebab he thought the earliest I akan bersalin is tengah malam. Pukul 7pm midwife check VE, I dah dilate 9cm! Then dia call husband I tanya dekat mana etc sebab tak lama dah I akan bersalin. Coincidentally my husband dah sampai labour room and midwife VE lagi sekali I dah fully dilate and they are preparing for my labour dah. Tunggu doc datang, 3 kali push and voila keluar seketul baby. Hilang terus sakit perut kanan aku. Sumpah lega sangat! This time tak ada epi, only first degree tear, all smooth sailing. Anak I keluar 3.13kg even baru 36 weeks. Hikmah yang Allah nak bagi. Alhamdulillah.

Tapi dalam senang beranak tu, I need to be monitored dekat labour room for 1 day, sebab BP tinggi. Baby semua nurse dah uruskan. I spent the night dekat labour room. Tak terkira lah berapa kali nurse masuk keluar check BP i. Masa ni BP pun around 150-160 tak turun pun even dah keluar baby. Imagine dengan tiub kencing dekat bawah, drip kiri kanan, blood lagi. Nurse memang tukarkan tapi I nak mandi (cries) Sumpah geli and stress. Tapi yelah, I faham je its very risky and semua tu prevention sebelum jadi benda lagi serius, i.e jatuh bilik air ke, sawan etc nauzubillah.

Esoknya lepas habis drip magnesium sulphate tu, I dah boleh masuk ward, and refesh myself. Lega sangat finally rasa bersih. Tapi baby still kena tahan dekat SCN sebab oksigen ade drop sikit, then she will be under monitoring in case anything. Better not to miss the boat. I dah rasa sihat, BP still tinggi even on meds, tapi range dah turun sikit 140-155. Every now and then nurse akan masuk bilik ambil BP etc. Baby I memang dekat SCN (Special Care Neonates) so tak room in dengan I. If I nak tengok baby, nurse akan bawa I turun. Boring sikit la sebab I rasa sihat je, takde baby pulak, kerja I makan, baring, tengok tv, pam la susu sesekali, itupun lepas hari ke 3. Guna manual pump je sebab yang electric i tak study lagi macam mana nak pakai n i malas nak study sekarang.

Haenim Korea Pump. Recommended.

I kena warded from 25th sampai 29th. Sampai semua ok baru discharge. Dalam ward makan sedap kenapa entah ye. Maybe sepanjang pregnancy tekak tak sedap. Dekat hospital ni, makanan apa pun i rasa sedap gila habis licin makan. Huhu..

Masa pergi Makkah during 5-months pregnancy tu I memang doa semoga semua dipermudahkan, senang beranak, tak koyak, tak jahit, bukaan cepat, anak sempurna mental fizikal, comel etc. Mungkin ni salah satu doa2 yang Allah makbulkan.

Tengah tawaf nampak baby comel ni ee

Baby I pun da pegi Makkah tapi dalam perut la haha.. Dalam hati masa ni bagi kenan sikit comel budak ni kat anak aku, why not kan walaupun mak bapak dah sah2 melayu takkan la keluar jadi anak arobb..

Balik rumah, sambung la rutin berpantang dengan CL. Sebab anak2 dah sekolah, susah la sikit nak balik berpantang dengan mak aku dekat kampung mcm dulu. Mak aku pun da sibuk dengan persatuan dia la, lawatan etc. Jadi ber CL lah kite. Seronokla hari2 berurut segar badan. Lepas 10 hari ni aku dah loss 12kg. Termasuk berat baby la kann. Happy dah boleh meniarap. Nikmat betul.

Bagi aku bersalin dekat Annur ni quite pricey tapi worth it la. Normal + epidural lepastu ubat2 drip semua tu kos aku RM9.5k. Untuk baby pulak masuk antibiotik etc + neonates care dalam RM7k. 

Sedappp

Thats all bye!

35 weeks now

I don't know how to start. Lets start with how I feel today and my routine. Started off my day at 6.30am, getting ready for work, even though I had sleepless nights lately. I travelled 1 hour one way to work, which I still can endure in the morning, tapi on the way back home from work in the evening, I can't even tolerate the pain sometimes.

Last 2-3 days tidur salah bantal and sakit sangat bahu and leher. Sometimes bawak ke kepala. I can't turn my head as per normal sebab sakit gila. Kaki bengkak like nobody's business. If malam2 i akan tinggikan kaki, then morning dah tak glaring bengkak tu. However, thorughout the days, makin bengkak dan bengkak then ulang balik the same routine. Sometimes it looks like my kaki nak meletop. Had my checkup every 2 weeks now. Last week I had to repeat MGTT test sebab ukuran perut baby besar 1 week dari due date, meanwhile the head and size cuma 1-2 days je difference from my edd. Turn out everything is normal, cuma this time I really feel so hopeless maybe due to my advance age compared to my last two pregnancies. 

I had to go to toilet many many times at night. Every single hour to pee to poo etc. Keep having braxton hicks especially at night. Im not sure how long do I have to face all these. Is this the sign of labour? I really not sure at all. 

-_-

Pregnant Again on our 13th Years of Marriage

Happy new year 2025! How time flies. I don't even remember what I did in 2024. 

17th Nov 2024. The day I found out that I'm pregnant with our third baby. I am at 37 years old, both kids are now independent, doing their own stuff and suddenly.... 2025 will be the year that I will have to roam back to milk and diapers aisle. 

11th weeks now, and I feel like shit. I don't have the energy to do anything. I just try to live everyday. I don't have any appetite for foods, but I know I have to eat for my growing baby. At the same time I still have to go to work. Luckily my morning sickness only happen after maghrib. I would throw up like nobody's business.

Bloated 24/7 is normal now. Salute to mommies who gets pregnant every year to go through all these. I can eat fruits, but I hate it now. I hate filtered water be it at home/ office. I just hate to drink because it taste weird. I hate chicken but I don't have options. I hate seafood and meat, basically I hate everything but I force myself to eat something at least.

I felt sleepy and hungry all the time. I will eat mixed nuts all just because I have to stop my growling stomach. As for my husband, normally we would go for date nights, after the kids were asleep. Now, no more since I don't even have the mood to do anything. Really felt bad for him. Please tell me this will be over soon.

I realized lately anything that I thought, somehow will be materialized. I'm not sure how and why though. I want my mom fried beehoon so badly. My mom lived 4-5 hours away from me hence I know I won't be getting it sooner. I never tell anyone about this craving, and obviously my mom don't have any idea about it. My mom came to my house and guess what? She brought her fried beehoon! I cried thinking that Allah has been so generous to me.

I don't know what happen with this beehoon cravings. One day, my husband brought us to a Thai restaurant. I didn't tell him what I want to eat because I don't have the mood for anything. Deep down I felt like eating fried beehoon that night. Quite disappointed that they do not have it in their menus. Its ok, I ordered Phad That instead. Guess what? The waiter came to me to tell me that the Phad Thai is out of stock, so I had to order something else. I casually tell him that I want to have fried beehoon. Yes! Of course I got my fried beehoon. I'm shooked!

Last 2 weeks I thought, would be good if we can travel to Bali. I didn't plan or say anything to my husband about this, coz it is just a thought. I didn't feel like myself pun to travel due to my pregnancy. One evening after work, my husband ask me to choose any place to go and ask me to plan a short trip at least to go getaway for a few days. He handed me his card and voila! Off we go to Bali the very next day. When this happened, somehow I felt scary. Why Allah has granted my wishes so easily. I would still cry in the car every morning, even when I listened to Zikr. Maybe its the pregnancy hormone right? Even the simplest thing, for instance if I saw a rainbow in the sky while driving, I felt like its a gift from Allah to me and he sees me even though Im just a human, and that made me cry.

Today it happened again, Remember I told that I hate to drink the filtered water? We have someone came over to service our water filter this morning and she accidentally broke the pipe hence we can't use the dispenser until the maintenance guy came later in the evening. My husband was worried that we don't have water to drink in between. He bougth loads and loads of Spritzer water and yeah. Actually, that is the only kind of water that I would drink right now during this first trimester. I think, the stock he bought might last until months. Actually, every morning before work, I would drop by the gas station to buy Spritzer as my drinking water throughout the day and now of course I don't need to already. I am really grateful somehow, even when I didn't say to anyone what I need/ wants, Allah always knew it and he will make it happen. There's always a way.

I don't intend to blurt out everything, some of it I will keep to myself. I jot this so that I will always remember. I can't wait for this baby to arrive. This is a big Rezq that Allah has granted us. Actually it is the doa of  the brother and sister that was being granted by Allah. Alhamdulillah. I don't know how will I manage this, but I know, I can and I will do it somehow. It has been 10 years since I last giving birth, of course I forget things. My husband treat me like I am the first time mom haha.. But pity them coz I dont have the  mood for anything right now, i.e to lepak, to do chores, to cook etc. This too, shall pass insyaallah.

10.43pm, bedroom SR.